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4 Winning Sports Mom Strategies
Posted by: | CommentsWhile my kids actually went back to school a few weeks ago, it seems like the rest of the area started school today and this is the first week all three of my kids have full-blown sports schedules. Three kids at three different schools doing three different sports after school is enough to make your head spin, but I have had a few years to perfect this and have some strategies that will help keep things running smoothly.
1. Put it all out there
Whether you use a whiteboard in the kitchen, traditional planner like the MomAgenda, or any myriad of technology tools we now have access to, get the week and schedules on paper. Color code it, use pictures, or use any other method that works for you but post the schedule somewhere so you can refer back to it and other family members can reference it, too. The other thing I did this year is take advantage of one child’s flexible schedule. My oldest has practice Monday and Wednesday after school until 5. My middle daughter has gymnastics on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. And my youngest is supposed to be at swim practice 3 days a week but they can choose their 3 days – so she will swim Monday, Wednesday, Friday so we can have two afternoons a week free (well, until my oldest’s high school swim season starts in November.)
2. Carpool
Let’s face it, the price of gas is getting crazy and our time is valuable. Check with other team members and form carpools where ever you can. Not only will it save money and time, the social time is good for your kids, too. A few years ago we carpooled with a family for gymnastics – I picked the girls up from school and took them to gym and my friend brought them home. We found that the simple routine and expectation of your friend going too, got rid of any complaints of “I’m too tired”, “I don’t want to go”, and similar episodes of whining. If you are going to carpool, make sure you do your best to pay attention to whose turn it is to drive, pick up times and be respectful of the schedules of others (as in try not to do last minutes schedule changes if possible).
3. Plan Meals
It is much healthier and more cost effective to feed your family at home than it is to go through the drive-thru window every other night. Take time over the weekend to plan your family’s meals for the week – taking into account schedules and staggered eating times. On crazy sports nights I tend to do meals in the slow cooker or meals that can be easily reheated depending on when the kids will have time to eat. Planning also pertains to snacks. Plan healthy mini meals that you can pack for your athletes to eat before or after practice. If you need ideas or some planning sheets, visit my RaisingAHealthyFamily.com site where I post my menu every week.
4. Walk That Fine Line
Let’s face it, without parental involvement youth sports just could not thrive. We need team moms, volunteer officials and booster clubs, and we know that kids rely on us for positive support. Get involved, however, you don’t want to be so involved that you are hovering over your child during practice, second guessing the coach or putting unnecessary expectations on your athlete. Don’t get wrapped up in the emotions of the day to day journey of sports – this is a marathon, not a sprint. Plus your child and their coaches are going to have good days and bad days – just like you do.
So as crazy as some days can be, take a little time to get organized, divide and conquer, and then you will be able to enjoy your child’s sports almost as much as they do!! If you have any strategies or techniques that you use to manage your children’s sports schedules, feel free to share them with us in the comments below!
Athletes and Back to School: 8 Things Parents and Coaches Can Do To Make It Easier
Posted by: | CommentsNote: I originally published this last year, but since it is that time of year again, I felt like it needed to be revisited.
Our kids go back to school next week but many of our mid-west friends have kids who go back to school tomorrow. For us the first week of school is also the first week of practice on the fall schedule for the gymnasts I coach and my own kids go back to swim team practices this week, as well. As a coach and a parent, I know the next 3 weeks are going to be HARD! That’s because it is going to take about 3 weeks for the kids to adjust to being back in school all day and then going straight to practice a few times a week. But it’s going to be okay. Experience tells me that these first few weeks will be tough, but the kids will adapt.
As a parent, you can help make this transition time easier by:
- Make sure your athlete is going to bed at a reasonable time. Summer sleep schedules were lax at best around my house so it is time to recalibrate the kids’ sleep schedules. I aim to have my 9 year old in bed between 9 and 9:30 on school nights. She can sleep in until 7 so that gives her plenty of time to rest. My 13 and 15 year old have to get up earlier but don’t seem to need quite as much sleep so they go to bed no later than 10 – closer to 9:30 on night’s where the homework load is light.
- Make sure your athlete is adequately fueled. Long school days mean less opportunity for snacking but it also means that they will be hungrier when you see them after school. Start with a balanced breakfast – no a frozen waffle on its own does not count. Encourage your athlete to help pack their lunch or at least give you input so the chance of them eating it all is better. If you are going straight from school to practice, make sure you provide a healthy mini-meal to refuel their systems (check our list of Healthy Snacks and Mini Meal Ideas). After workout try a tall glass of chocolate milk and a banana or bagel for immediate muscle recovery!
- Communicate with teachers! If your child is still in elementary school, definitely let their teacher know what days they have sports practice. Many teachers will be willing to give homework at the beginning of the week so that you can focus on homework on off days, or at least conquer the more time intensive pieces on non-sports days. For middle school and high school students, it is a great time to learn time management skills. My kids have learned how to take advantage of in-school study halls and extra class time to get a jump on homework so they don’t have as much to deal with after school.
- Allow for downtime. Be sure not to completely over schedule your child these first few weeks. Add activities incrementally and allow for some relaxation time. Time to read, play, enjoy family time and just chill is just as essential for kids as the sports they do!
As a coach, you can help by:
- Being aware of the transition that your athletes are dealing with. Just acknowledging the new schedule and challenges will go a long way to helping the children relax.
- Taking a few minutes to communicate with your athletes. When we start practice we have the girls all line up first so we can give them any pre-practice information, greet them and we usually go down the line and ask them each how their day was or some silly question. It helps the girls change gears and it helps facilitate the coach/athlete bond.
- Stressing the importance of school. Remind your athletes that school comes first. If they need an extra 15 minutes at the beginning of practice to finish up homework, give it to them. As the year goes on they will find their stride and will learn to manage the homework/practice balance better. Allow athletes to leave practice early on night’s where they need to study for a big test or have a larger than normal homework load.
- Adjusting practice intensity. Know your athletes and know the signs of fatigue. The first few weeks of school you may need to adjust the intensity, number repetitions and lower your expectations a bit.
Years of experience from the coaching side and now from the parenting side have taught me that kids are resilient, they adapt and even the busiest schedule can be a positive thing – IF – parents and coaches are working together with the athletes as a TEAM.
Do you have tips for making the transition from the lazy days of summer back to the structure of balancing school and sports? If so – share them in the comments below! We can all benefit from working to support our athletes.
Is Your Athlete Ready For Summer Camp?
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School’s out and summer’s here! Chances are, if you have an athlete, there will be a summer camp of sorts in their future. I know I am going to be spending a large part of my day tomorrow labeling and helping my son get packed for his camp. He will only be gone for 5 days but it sure seems like we have a lot to pack! It will also be his first sleepaway camp and while in year’s past I would have doubted his readiness, this year there is no doubt in my mind he will be fine.
I have collected some great resources and checklists to help you decide if your athlete is ready for an overnight camp and what you need to pack.
- Let’s start with my printable summer camp packing list – one is specifically for gymnasts and the other one is for just about any camp.
- Mom’s Team has a good checklist for parent’s preparing to send their athlete away to camp
- PBS’s Bob Ditter on how to get kids ready for camp - the independence, maturity and mental preparation
- Jennifer O’Donnell has some good tips to help you determine if your tween is ready for an overnight camp
- TypeA Parent has another good article on how to make sure your child’s first camp experience is a successful one
Don’t forget to label EVERYTHING! Either invest in some good Sharpie markers or better yet, Mabel’s Labels has a Limited Edition Camp Combo™ that is perfect for labeling everything your child may need at camp.
What other tips do you have for sending kids off to camp?








